Monday, March 31, 2014

Precis 2 (Strict Parenting=Good)

Jennifer Brozak, writer of The Advantages of Strict Parents, discusses the controversial topic of strict parenting and it's advantages. Jennifer believes that it is very much possible to have firm discipline yet also have nurture and lovingness. By dividing adolescents up into various aspects, Jen takes an organized look at what kind of discipline/parenting is best; those aspects being academics, self-control, peer pressure, and social interaction. She that setting high standards will result in academic and social excellence; two things that are crucial in success. Jen goes on to say that having constant consequences for a child will them improve their self control, manners, and resist to peer pressure. All this structure that Jen finds necessary to parenting all help make her point very clear; that strict parenting is the correct way to raise a kid.
"The Advantages of Strict Parents." Preschooler. N.p., n.d. Web. 30 Mar. 2014.

Although worded and organized well, there are several points in this article that I have conflicting ideas with. There is not one idea in this article that I disagree with; rather the level of extremity that Jennifer wants to take them to. First, kids with stricter parents excel in academics. This is a well known fact, and I fully support it. However, Jennifer claims that parents should have constant high academic standards for their kid, and to consistently have consequences when those standards aren't met. This is where I disagree. Mistakes and priorities are both relevant issues in everyone's lives, regardless of age. Instilling into a child's brain from a very young age that academics is always first can increase stress in the child's brain, resulting in an overall anxious kid. Teaching that academics is first will literally make academics their world, and this squishes crucial social and adventurous opportunities. The experiences that you have out in the world, while growing up, defines you as a person. An academics-only lifestyle ruins this completely, and therefore a not a very well-rounded young adult. The other debatable statement comes when Jen describes how always being strict helps improve self control and peer pressure. There is no doubt that consequences and structure help raise a smart kid with his own feelings about self control and peer pressure, but that is not what Jen is saying. Jen wants to prevent the opportunity all together. If a person doesn't do something only because he is afraid of what his mom will do, does that teach him real life consequences? No, it teaches him that he just needs to wait until his mom won't be around; example being college. Raising a child based on fear, consequences, and 1 dimensional consequences will only increase their desire to do something bad; something that is different. That is why it is important to slowly decrease how much a parent monitors their kid, and have important discussions of why some things aren't ok to do. Otherwise, the parent's young adult will go from being sheltered to exposed too quickly and too extremely. Studies show that the acceleration of sheltered kids to college can actually cause a need to do all the new opportunities at once. This can be very dangerous, and several students have died under these circumstances. Research shows that kids in high school who had a relative of social and academic "college-like" experiences were more adept at handling the change.

http://preschooler.thebump.com/advantages-strict-parents-2211.html

2 comments:

  1. I understand where you are coming from about the pressure of grades. Although if the parents do not stress how important grades are then their child might not do well in college, because that habit did not form. If they fail college then they will have a harder time making money on their own. I agree that if a teen is quickly switched from a shelter life to a completely free one they might go bananas and break all the rules. That is why pressure about grades is critical and very useful since college requires you to study hard. I think this article is very interesting and shows off all the main points of parenting.

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  2. Sabrina, you bring up a very good point. Overall, academics should for sure be the main priority in adolescent. But too much focus on it can be damaging to the child's mental health. Parenting is all about balancing responsibilities with freedoms, and it is a shame that many parents don't understand that.

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