Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Authoritarian Parenting Conclusion

When I started this debate, I really had no idea of the effects of being a controlling parent. It is important to recognize the physiological and physical consequences of helicoptering, especially due to the massive amounts of parents who do it. It is hindering! Neither extremes are good, but our society has a lot more fully authoritarian than fully permissive parents. All parents want the best for their kids, and it is their natural instinct to attempt to control all things. That is why it is crucial to self reflect. A parent should recognize when they are actually depriving their child of creative opportunity's, and then take a step back. They get so caught up in their desperate attempts to make their child successful, that they don't allow much of anything unless it's school related. How would a kid find his potentially life-changing passion with a life like this? How can we creatively progress as a society when so many parents are attempting to repeat their childhood through their kid? The answer is we can't! And, as for risk, it is a part of life! A parent who covers their kid from all risky/morally-challenging situations only puts the child at a massive disadvantage. Post-highschool, the  parent's kid is now out in the world with no basic understanding to real life consequences, social expectations, etc. When worded like this, most people would agree that a kid who understands both of those aspects would have a greater chance at success. This is evidence is what I was looking for once I took my side on the debate. This is why spontaneousness, freedom and creativity should be supported, not prevented; and this is why a perfect, nurturing balance of structure and privileges is the best way to raise a kid.

Final Showdown: Strict Vs. Permissive.

On Dr Drew's show, Dr. Drew, he did an interesting six minute segment interviewing Deborah and Dino Piscione, parents who believe in authoritarian raising of her three kids. Drew then gets a debate going by having Pediatrician Dr. Harvey Karp, who is against strict parenting, offer a rebuttal. "To everything is a season," he says, meaning that there is a time for everything to come and go, and too much of one thing is never good. The Pisciones are all about structure, and have a very extensive schedule for all of their kids. Karp says that they need time to relax and chill, because the mind always needs time to be creative and have no boundaries. The Pisciones then counteract this, exclaiming that they do allow time for their kids to relax. The segment ends with Lisa Ling, host of "Our America With Lisa Ling," offering some concluding thoughts. There is nothing concrete when it comes to how to parent, and pretty much the only thing that all parents (hopefully) have in common is they want the best for their kids. There is a difference between reasonable boundaries and excessive helicoptering; and there is a difference between supporting a child's spontaneousness and letting the child be in charge.
"Strict Parenting Controversy." YouTube. YouTube, 03 Dec. 2012. Web. 7 Apr. 2014.

This to me is the perfect article. It had a great balance of everything! The Pisciones came off a little extreme at first, but quickly got rid of that title when they discussed how important their child's creativity is. The Pisciones expressed their need to balance free time in with the structure, which was very reasonable. All in all, these parents seem to be example A of modern day parenting. However, it would be nice to do a follow-up interview once the kids are older, to see how these parents adjusted. The biggest problem is when parents begin to prioritize academics more and more, smashing the child's creativity. But there are two sides to every story; and parents who offer no structure at all could cause a very unintelligent and non-progressing individual. This is why Linda and the Pisciones set a very good example for what this generation's parenting should be.

Monday, April 7, 2014

Strict Parenting Linked to Childhood Obesity!

Today News' Linda Carroll writes an article titled "Strict Parenting Linked to Childhood Obesity"; the title is self-explanatory. Linda explains that "because I said so" parenting actually increases a child's chances at obesity. A study done by the American Heart Association showed that, between the ages of 6-11, having a demanding and unemotional parent can increase a child's chances of obesity by 37%. After Linda consulted and interviewed numerous resources, she came to a conclusion of how obesity and parenting are connected. Everyone is born with a natural instinct of self-regulation. When a parent controls every detail about their child's life, the child consequently is dependent on that parent. The dissolves the kid's ability to regulate his body, including whether he is full or not. Experts also say that completely shutting off a child's access to a certain food for an extended time period only increases his desire for sed food. The result is exactly like the examples in the previous posts; the kid will be exposed to all that food once he is out of his parents reach, and it can be unhealthy. In the end, Linda's unique article adds the helpful physical health aspect to the controversial debate of parenting styles.
Http://www.today.com/health/hug-more-scold-less-strict-parenting-linked-child-obesity-2D79404578, Linda. "Hug More, Scold Less: Strict Parenting Linked to Child Obesity - TODAY.com." TODAY. N.p., n.d. Web. 7 Apr. 2014.

I found this article to be very unique and interesting. I have already been persuaded towards the more lenient parenting style, and this article sealed the deal. However, I cannot say that this is the strongest argument. It was helpful, reassuring, and different, but I would not use this as my main argument. Mostly because I don't find it compelling enough. I find that after a parent reads this, instead of actually being convinced to reconsider their parenting style, they would just maybe become more permissive on diet. As for the food aspect, this article could be hugely helpful. 37% increase for obesity is a big number. That statistic alone could easily could persuade a parent to change there kid's eating times. But, due to the massive scale that this debate is on, I do not feel like this argument has enough momentum to be a deal-breaker. When people think of obesity, over-protective parents is not the leading cause that comes to mind. The positive side is that this article, being on Time Magazine, could be a gateway article into the exploration of bigger advantages to a more progressive parenting.